i called him last tuesday. we talked.
boiled down to how he can't see himself with me long run because i don't do all of the same things as him (i don't debate, go running, like sweaty hairy hippie dancing).
said if we got married he could see it as him always feeling loved but always feeling like he missed out or lost something because of not doing the same things. i told him maybe that was more of a him problem than me. he agreed that maybe it was
i know i lack communicating skills...but i made the jump to call him and try to talk about things.
while i always felt the relationship was nigh on perfect, he never did. he never outright said he loved me because he was never certain 100% on his feelings.
3 fuckin' years.
i hate this. he says he hates it too. he wants to move forward and still be friends...i want to go back and fix things.
he said he doesn't want to fix it.
fuck, that was like a knife....it reads as "you're not worth it" to me...i started sobbing and quickly told him i had to go.
i just don't know
it's probably a little early to throw in the towel for 2009, but seriously.....this year has been sucktastic.
let's take a look at this...
1. 15 year old girl that i knew (since she was 8 or 9 years old) killed herself in the spring
2. our older dog got really sick and was put to sleep in late june
3. family friend who has been in my life since as long as i can remember - basically like family - died the day after my birthday
4. the boy broke my heart....
4 a. ...which basically makes any happiness i did have between the other previously mentioned events feel like they were a lie
4 b. ...and killed my ability to concentrate, focus, eat, get up in the morning, joy in choreographing kids....etc.
....so yeah. kinda want to sleep away the rest of 2009...at least until i stop feeling like shit in all possible areas of feeling like shit. the only happy thing i can think of is getting our puppy, zeppo, in july...