I can't tell you if I'd have any input,not knowing the story. Post it if you'd like and I'll offer advice if I can.
As far as crushes being dumb,I disagree. I'll admit they can be confusing,humiliating,heartbreaking and uncontrolable. They can also be fun,flirty,silly,sexy,wild and memorable. They're also completely out of our control. Most of the difference lies in if you are the crusher or the crushee and If the other party has any interest. I speak from far too much personal knowledge of the subject. I did some things to impress girls I had a cush on when I was around your age that can still make me blush. Norm
Heh, I'm the crusher and don't have a very good idea on if it's reciprocated or not. I've been keeping a little bit of a typed up log, sorta, and sending bits and pieces to people saying "Decipher this person!" and whatnot.
Asked if I wanted to see Superman a few months back, but couldn't due to a rehearsal. A few weeks before my first outting to Friday Night Waltz, he asked me and I had to say no 'cause there was a show that night. That was when Jesse -- another friend of mine I see at Celtic Night -- had pulled me aside and basically said "He really wants to take you waltzing sometime."
When I finally did end up going to FNW (Friday Night Waltz) with him, the next time he'd asked, we ended up going out to dinner before as well. When we got to the dancing place, he'd said "I'm gonna be throwing men at you!" which....eventually made sense because it was the sort of place where you're supposed to switch partners after every song.
I did the first 3 dances with him, a few throughout the rest of the 3 hour set of dancing and when we were both taking a break I'd plop down on a chair next to him and end up with an arm around me. And he grabbed me for the last waltz (which was actually a Celtic tune he knew and he sang along eee). After that, he'd told me about how other folk tend to go out afterwards, but since he was working the Renaissance Faire, he was going home.
Ummm.....last Wednesday, I dropped by the Irish Set Dancing place he'd told me about, and he was my partner the entire time -- all 2 hours. Then last night we went to a Lindy Hop thing that I'd kinda dragged him to (he ended up brooding a little over the fact that the instructors didn't spend enough time over the basic step, but I hung around with him.) When we left -- since it was almost 11 and I had to get up at 6, and he had work in the morning -- it was raining, so he shared his coat with me while he was wearing it by holding it over my head on my way to the car.
Whew. Now, with all of THAT in there, there's also FNW tomorrow but he's having dinner with someone else beforehand which makes me go "Wait, was it just out to dinner as friends or what?" even though he made me taste his peppermint tea and we shared the baklava dessert. And paid for the dinner.
Last night, Went to Friday Night Waltz again. Got hugs and danced with the guy for about 5 - 7of the dances. Mostly waltzes, but one polka and a swing too. Afterwards, we (and about 30 of our "closest friends" -- people he knows, but I'd met the first time) went to a resturaunt and there was a rowdy time had by all who were there. OH. And on the way there, we spotted some random folk dancing on the sidewalk and we joined in while he sang a waltz to it. Totally my favorite memory. Ha.
First,and off topic, there's FNW on a Sunday or did I misunderstand?
I agree with you,there's a whole lot of mixed signals here. My gut tells me that he's interested. He's asked you out a few times and when you've gone its been borderline romantic( the arm around you,the coat in the rain,etc.)and you've had a good time. There's also the whole thing where dancing is so wonderfuly intimate. You have your arms around each other and all that. Most guys find it very tough to ignore a girl they're twirling about. I'd forget the "throwing men at you" comment. I think it means just what you said. You don't take a young lady to dinner and dancing if you want to pass her onto someone else. You said he went to the Lindy Hop thing with you even though he really wasn't into it. Most guys don't go places they don't want to with girls they don't like. After you're married that's all you do! My advice is take the risk and tell him how you feel. I can't think that he's not picking up the vibe anyway. If he just wants to "be friends" (worst words in the world!) then you know where you stand. It might hurt for a bit but not as bad as if you string this out. I think knowing is better then not. And I think it will work out well! You can always have someone lead him to your blog and let him find out that way. It's a bit of the cowards way out but it could be easier on you. BTW,you do more dancing in a month then I've done in my life! Good luck and let me know. I hope this helps,even a little. Norm
Heh, no there's no FNW on Sundays....most of that stuff was written as a string of conciousness.
As far as telling him? I'm a HUGE mondo coward. Even having him on my LiveJournal friends-list (I have way too many blogs) makes me feel cowardly about posting things I normally would.
For the Lindy-Hop: I think we were both hoping they'd spend more time on the basic stuff, and they went sorta straight into how to incorporate the Charleston steps. He'd told me last night that he doesn't think he's going to do the Lindy stuff again during this month since they'll be adding on more Charleston stuff.
I'm starting to get rambly and confuse myself even more. Curse my cowardness....I'm too cowardly to even randomly give him a cell phone call even though he's given me a greenlight to do so if I ever get bored and need someone to talk to.
Oh my dear,you don't need to grow a spine,you're just human. If you can't get up the nerve to tell him outright,find a sly way to do it. Do you have mutual friends? Have one tell him that youlike him. It may seem grade school but it works. How you let him know isn't half as importent as that you do. Speaking of having lots of blogs,I just had a surreal experience. I'm at work so I don't have my bookmarks,I just get everywhere from google. When I went to get back here I hit 'I feel lucky' instead of 'search'. Ended up on your Myspace page. Wild looking but I really liked the song! If you've got his number,call him. Even if you just BS you'll feel better.And who knows,maybe he'll be the one to say something. Good luck!!
I think we've got 2 mutual friends, but one I've known only as long as I've known the crush (they were in the same celtic music group together), and the other I met through the crush. I miiiight be able to talk to the Whistle Player about it, but I dunno. It'd be easier if I'd met him through a friend I've had for a long time.
I think I may find out if he wants to go see Little Miss Sunshine with me, though. If I get the guts to do it.
Where's the Wizard of Oz with my medal for courage when I need him? :P
Yanno, all of this would probably be a LOT easier on me if I'd been able to go through this sort of thing in high school. Instead, I've only ever had one boyfriend (Joey) and only ever went out on dates with him, really.
Want to boost your mood. If the sky's clear there go out and check out the moon. I read that this is supposed to be one of the brightest ever. Really lovely here. Go for it,ask him out! Little Miss Sunshine is a great quirky movie. Great date movie too. Sic 'em! lol
I actually was just outside a few minutes ago and thought "Crikey, that's a GORGEOUS" moon. Steve Irwin voice and all -- even though I'm a Californian.
I saw it once with my mom and aunt, and reeeeally want to see it again.
There you go. Channel the spirt of Steve Irwin to find that courage you need! Everytime I go between buildings here I look up at this moon. The fact that it's 40 degrees means really clear air. Just love nature!
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Not to be insensitive, but so are girls!
Yeah....there's a whole long story about it and I could post it here. But not sure if I will...there's the possibility of the guy finding it omg!
Well, he might not...he'd have to go through my livejournal to my deviantart gallery and then follow a link from there to here!
....I prolly will, though, if you think you'd have any input.
Crushes are dumb, too. :P
I can't tell you if I'd have any input,not knowing the story. Post it if you'd like and I'll offer advice if I can.
As far as crushes being dumb,I disagree. I'll admit they can be confusing,humiliating,heartbreaking and uncontrolable. They can also be fun,flirty,silly,sexy,wild and memorable. They're also completely out of our control. Most of the difference lies in if you are the crusher or the crushee and If the other party has any interest.
I speak from far too much personal knowledge of the subject. I did some things to impress girls I had a cush on when I was around your age that can still make me blush. Norm
Please,no grading on spelling or puntuation. Sheesh!
Heh, I'm the crusher and don't have a very good idea on if it's reciprocated or not. I've been keeping a little bit of a typed up log, sorta, and sending bits and pieces to people saying "Decipher this person!" and whatnot.
Anyway, lemme see, beginning....
Asked if I wanted to see Superman a few months back, but couldn't due to a rehearsal. A few weeks before my first outting to Friday Night Waltz, he asked me and I had to say no 'cause there was a show that night. That was when Jesse -- another friend of mine I see at Celtic Night -- had pulled me aside and basically said "He really wants to take you waltzing sometime."
When I finally did end up going to FNW (Friday Night Waltz) with him, the next time he'd asked, we ended up going out to dinner before as well. When we got to the dancing place, he'd said "I'm gonna be throwing men at you!" which....eventually made sense because it was the sort of place where you're supposed to switch partners after every song.
I did the first 3 dances with him, a few throughout the rest of the 3 hour set of dancing and when we were both taking a break I'd plop down on a chair next to him and end up with an arm around me. And he grabbed me for the last waltz (which was actually a Celtic tune he knew and he sang along eee). After that, he'd told me about how other folk tend to go out afterwards, but since he was working the Renaissance Faire, he was going home.
Ummm.....last Wednesday, I dropped by the Irish Set Dancing place he'd told me about, and he was my partner the entire time -- all 2 hours. Then last night we went to a Lindy Hop thing that I'd kinda dragged him to (he ended up brooding a little over the fact that the instructors didn't spend enough time over the basic step, but I hung around with him.) When we left -- since it was almost 11 and I had to get up at 6, and he had work in the morning -- it was raining, so he shared his coat with me while he was wearing it by holding it over my head on my way to the car.
Whew. Now, with all of THAT in there, there's also FNW tomorrow but he's having dinner with someone else beforehand which makes me go "Wait, was it just out to dinner as friends or what?" even though he made me taste his peppermint tea and we shared the baklava dessert. And paid for the dinner.
Last night, Went to Friday Night Waltz again. Got hugs and danced with the guy for about 5 - 7of the dances. Mostly waltzes, but one polka and a swing too. Afterwards, we (and about 30 of our "closest friends" -- people he knows, but I'd met the first time) went to a resturaunt and there was a rowdy time had by all who were there. OH. And on the way there, we spotted some random folk dancing on the sidewalk and we joined in while he sang a waltz to it. Totally my favorite memory. Ha.
SO CONFUSED OMG.
Wow,deep breath.
First,and off topic, there's FNW on a Sunday or did I misunderstand?
I agree with you,there's a whole lot of mixed signals here. My gut tells me that he's interested. He's asked you out a few times and when you've gone its been borderline romantic( the arm around you,the coat in the rain,etc.)and you've had a good time. There's also the whole thing where dancing is so wonderfuly intimate. You have your arms around each other and all that. Most guys find it very tough to ignore a girl they're twirling about.
I'd forget the "throwing men at you" comment. I think it means just what you said. You don't take a young lady to dinner and dancing if you want to pass her onto someone else.
You said he went to the Lindy Hop thing with you even though he really wasn't into it. Most guys don't go places they don't want to with girls they don't like. After you're married that's all you do!
My advice is take the risk and tell him how you feel. I can't think that he's not picking up the vibe anyway. If he just wants to "be friends" (worst words in the world!) then you know where you stand. It might hurt for a bit but not as bad as if you string this out. I think knowing is better then not. And I think it will work out well!
You can always have someone lead him to your blog and let him find out that way. It's a bit of the cowards way out but it could be easier on you.
BTW,you do more dancing in a month then I've done in my life!
Good luck and let me know. I hope this helps,even a little. Norm
Heh, no there's no FNW on Sundays....most of that stuff was written as a string of conciousness.
As far as telling him? I'm a HUGE mondo coward. Even having him on my LiveJournal friends-list (I have way too many blogs) makes me feel cowardly about posting things I normally would.
For the Lindy-Hop: I think we were both hoping they'd spend more time on the basic stuff, and they went sorta straight into how to incorporate the Charleston steps. He'd told me last night that he doesn't think he's going to do the Lindy stuff again during this month since they'll be adding on more Charleston stuff.
I'm starting to get rambly and confuse myself even more. Curse my cowardness....I'm too cowardly to even randomly give him a cell phone call even though he's given me a greenlight to do so if I ever get bored and need someone to talk to.
I need to grow a spine. :P
Oh my dear,you don't need to grow a spine,you're just human. If you can't get up the nerve to tell him outright,find a sly way to do it. Do you have mutual friends? Have one tell him that youlike him. It may seem grade school but it works. How you let him know isn't half as importent as that you do.
Speaking of having lots of blogs,I just had a surreal experience. I'm at work so I don't have my bookmarks,I just get everywhere from google. When I went to get back here I hit 'I feel lucky' instead of 'search'. Ended up on your Myspace page. Wild looking but I really liked the song!
If you've got his number,call him. Even if you just BS you'll feel better.And who knows,maybe he'll be the one to say something.
Good luck!!
I think we've got 2 mutual friends, but one I've known only as long as I've known the crush (they were in the same celtic music group together), and the other I met through the crush. I miiiight be able to talk to the Whistle Player about it, but I dunno. It'd be easier if I'd met him through a friend I've had for a long time.
I think I may find out if he wants to go see Little Miss Sunshine with me, though. If I get the guts to do it.
Where's the Wizard of Oz with my medal for courage when I need him? :P
Yanno, all of this would probably be a LOT easier on me if I'd been able to go through this sort of thing in high school. Instead, I've only ever had one boyfriend (Joey) and only ever went out on dates with him, really.
I hate being so painfully shy.
Want to boost your mood. If the sky's clear there go out and check out the moon. I read that this is supposed to be one of the brightest ever. Really lovely here.
Go for it,ask him out! Little Miss Sunshine is a great quirky movie. Great date movie too. Sic 'em! lol
I actually was just outside a few minutes ago and thought "Crikey, that's a GORGEOUS" moon. Steve Irwin voice and all -- even though I'm a Californian.
I saw it once with my mom and aunt, and reeeeally want to see it again.
There you go. Channel the spirt of Steve Irwin to find that courage you need!
Everytime I go between buildings here I look up at this moon. The fact that it's 40 degrees means really clear air. Just love nature!
Just a quick one: Thanks for all of the input. I enjoy having someone to talk to about this sorta thing.
Back to my paper. Urhg.
Always glad to help. You have my e-mail if you ever need anything.
So, how's the cowardly lion doing? lol
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